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[peninhand]

Hello. I have a question for all the Lost Souls:

What is love in your reality?

To be more specific, I am talking about the kind of love you find between two lovers. I realize how strange this question may sound. But this is very important to me and I would appreciate it if as many people as possible could reply to this with serious answers.


PS: please don't reply with a link to Haddaway's song.

Comments

[getting_better]

Well if we go by my understanding, it'd seem unlikely but still completely possible.

People have fallen in love with one another from letters or long distance relationships. A face to put words or a voice to would just help and not put any unrealistic expectations for one another.

[peninhand]

Unrealistic expectations... I see.

Thank you. I've made some pretty severe mistakes in my past. And I think I already knew the answer I was looking for. But it's good to hear it confirmed in someone else's words.

[getting_better]

Happy to be of help, I guess? Sounds like you've got something heavy on your chest. A penny for your thoughts?

[peninhand]

My expectations were unrealistic. In more ways than one.

I was hoping for "love" to save me. For a certain someone to reach me. But that was never realistic. I wasn't expecting the right things from "love." I'd turned that word into something else.

[getting_better]

Sounds heavy. I'm guessing you wanted to confirm if you were wrong out of a sense of guilt?

[peninhand]

In part.

But I also do not want to give up on love. So next time... I want to make sure I'll do things right.

[getting_better]

Well, love is all about learning, isn't it? But while it's good you don't give up on love, I think it's important to first forgive yourself before looking for it again. Otherwise, that guilt becomes baggage, and love is like being in a boat out at sea. Too many things inside will just drag you and your partner down. I'm sure you don't want that.

[peninhand]

You're absolutely right.

I don't know if I can forgive myself... And I yet don't want to wait either. I'm kind of a mess, ahaha. Really a sign I shouldn't be selfish and be more patient.

Thanks for that. I needed to hear it.