I heard about the other groups merely through recent acquaintance, so it's possible they weren't terribly formal. My concern--as I also came from a military group--was that my own experiences would make me prone to either exert too much force or force in the wrong direction. I also work best with an initial set of guidelines and expectations.

[He does smile, and it looks sincere.]

It is good to meet you, though. And, do forgive any offense here, but since I'm not familiar with your culture, should I call you by your full name...?