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[peninhand]

Hello. I have a question for all the Lost Souls:

What is love in your reality?

To be more specific, I am talking about the kind of love you find between two lovers. I realize how strange this question may sound. But this is very important to me and I would appreciate it if as many people as possible could reply to this with serious answers.


PS: please don't reply with a link to Haddaway's song.

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[peninhand]

Well I suppose that depends on the Conjunx, right? No two persons have the same limitations. But I think when it comes to most people, they wouldn't be fine with it.

Like I said, those are extreme examples.

I guess I pushed it a bit too far. But it's nice to know devotion and "clinginess" aren't looked down on.

[peacewithouttyranny]

[It makes him wonder what prompted them to go for those extreme examples. Though he doesn't ask.]

They are inextricably bonded for life. Some level of devotion and "clinginess" towards a partner is to be expected, and some may feel it's wrong to have them separated for even a moment.

Regardless, I do not see why they would be looked down on.

[Embarassing, maybe? Though for Soundwave, it's just the fact that he doesn't really care much for whatever bonded pairs are up to. These are all observations he's gathered.]

Is it not the case in your reality?

[peninhand]

I see... Wrong to separate them even for a moment, huh?

[ That sounds absolutely... Wonderful! Wow! If they're in hell, then whatever world her anonymous interlocutor comes from must be heaven!! ]

In my reality, it can be seen poorly. It can be perceived as a lack of independence or an annoyance, depending on the perspective.

[peacewithouttyranny]

[Oh boy, his homeworld is far from heavenly.]

That seems to be the impression from what I have observed, and have heard others talked about.

I see, I can understand where those two perspective come from. Unless they are being too clingy or needy, which may be problematic and a detriment if they cannot function without their partner, I do not see why others should care how a pair would be clingy.

[Of course, Soundwave does get clingy, too. Just on other things, not exactly on a romantic relationship.]

[peninhand]

Exactly! So long as you live your love without hurting anyone, it really shouldn't be anyone's concern.

[ ... Oops, she's been a tad too enthusiastic about this reply, huh? But that's one of the best replies she's had! ]

Thank you for your answers. I think they're going to help me a lot.

[peacewithouttyranny]

Seems it is something you must feel strongly about.

[The reply did read as rather enthusiastic, but he kinda gets how irritating it is to be judged by others for their lifestyle. Though he wasn't expecting the next bit.]

I admit I did not expect my answers would be of much help as I have no experience or familiarity with romantic love whatsoever.

Regardless, you are welcome. Forgive me for presuming, but I wish you luck that you are able to find the love you seek.

[peninhand]

Ah, thank you very much.

You are correct on both fronts. I feel very strongly about that and hope to find love.

I am intent on being patient though... I realize just rushing things would be detrimental in the long-term.

[peacewithouttyranny]

Rushing rarely produce favorable results. Especially in a relationship like love.

That is good that you are intent on being patient. I believe a thing like love is something that will come naturally on its own.

[peninhand]

Let's hope so!

And likewise for you. Love seems to be a very beautiful and precious thing in your culture, even if that's not something on your mind I hope you'll find it.

[peacewithouttyranny]

[The last part of the text has him raise a metaphorical eyebrow.]

I cannot be certain if I can be in such a relationship, but I appreciate the well wishes all the same.

[peninhand]

Why couldn't you? If I can, then anyone can, of this I am certain!

[peacewithouttyranny]

I am the only one of my kind here, for one.

and two, I lack social skills.

[peninhand]

[ The only one of his kind and lacking in social skills, huh...?

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Soundwave?

[ That was so embarrassing! Sometimes she wished her brain would turn off so she didn't connect the dots... ]

[peacewithouttyranny]

[...... Well what are the chances the anon have met him before. Hmmmm.]

Possibly. I believe I might know who you are.

[Not.... really. Not a guaranteed at least, but so far he's only know a few by name to easily make a guess. Reading all the other replies, two people are ruled out so that makes the pool even smaller.]

[peninhand]

Well. That's kinda awkward.

But I'll say at least this much, I still believe you can find love! The emotion of "love" doesn't require for your special someone to be of the same kind as you.

[peacewithouttyranny]

I suppose not. We are both sapient beings capable of such, but... I find it difficult to even imagine being in such relationship with other species.

[Let alone being in a romantic relationship even with his own kind.]

[peninhand]

Well, I guess you never even considered the possibility... But you should try to consider it now! That's a whole world of possibilities opening up for you.

Maybe you just have to meet the right person for this idea to click with you.

[peacewithouttyranny]

I have never once considered being in a romantic relationship.

Perhaps that may change. I will have to wait and see if the 'right' person may make me consider the idea.

[Still doubtful about it but at least he's keeping an open mind?]